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Saturday, November 7, 2009

My "little" Cause

I know I have been out for a bit but things have been a little stressful around here these last few weeks.

I finally went back to work about 2 months ago. I was at my job about 2 weeks and my boss' wife took seriously ill. She has been in the hospital this whole time. Well this past week, she passed away. Surrounded by her family.

Well, admittedly I have been a little distracted, but tonight I went to check in on my little Facebook group: Stop Parental Alientation-Fight for Parents Rights and boy to say I was shocked was an understatement.

The little "cause" I started on Facebook so many months ago in an attempt to bring parents like myself (done horribly wrong by CPS) together in an effort to share resources, information and emotional support if nothing else. Well it appears that my "little cause" is not so little anymore. We are 757 members strong!!!! Never in a million years did I think it would ever get that big.

So I want to take a moment to encourage all of you to not only join this cause via the link above or you can find it by finding me on Facebook (Lydia Moma Henderson). Because I always say - the larger we are the louder we are, the louder we are the less we can be ignored, the less we can be ignored the more change we can bring about.

So please, continue to spread the word, share your stories, post your links, you videos, your news stories, your groups and similiar causes. The word IS getting out and we ARE getting organized.

If you want me to post your link or anything in my cause, just let me know and I will GLADLY do so. If there is a resource you think we need to know about share it yourself or let me know and I will post that too. I have discovered simply by accident - no group is too small, no piece of information is too little, put them all together and they aren't so little anymore :)

Monday, October 26, 2009

Elkins Family Law Task Force public hearing October 27th

Elkins Family Law Task Force public hearing October 27th

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Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Legal child abuse in the USA

Monday, October 12, 2009

We need child welfare reform in Wyoming

posters note: ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!? This has got to be the most kiss ass brown nosing article I have ever seen. Is it just me or can you actually hear the "kissing" sound as you read this??? There is so MUCH wrong in the state of Wyoming that I don't even know where to begin, not to mention there isn't enough web space. I have bolded the things that I actually know for a fact to be a crock because - hello - I just went through this and I am still going through this!!!

TONY LEWIS - Perspective Posted: Sunday, October 11, 2009 12:00 am

In Wyoming, there are more than 1,200 children in state custody who are currently placed somewhere outside their own homes, either with a foster family, detention facility or behavioral institution. It's a big number.

A popular misconception is that these are all children who were removed by DFS. But in Wyoming, children can only be removed from a family for safety reasons by a police officer or a physician. They can only be put in jail by law enforcement. By and large, these professionals, along with assistance from DFS workers, all seem to be making fairly reasonable decisions. (ok - really - doI need to say anything here?)

So what accounts for Wyoming's continued high rate of child removal and foster care?

Among Wyoming's child advocates, we talk a lot about two major barriers to reducing our numbers of children in out-of-home care. They include 1) the rural nature of the state and 2) lack of specialization.

These are real barriers. Most counties in Wyoming have fewer than 50,000 people, and resources for struggling families are scarce. The distance to the closest expert on trauma, parenting or delinquency intervention is often significant.

This is a big reason why courts and court-appointed multi-disciplinary teams (the ones that recommend services or placements) rely so heavily on private institutions for stabilizing and treating acute emotional and behavioral problems. If you're looking for a clinician who can conduct an appropriate assessment and create a case plan that works for the court system, group homes and residential treatment facilities do good work.

For child protection cases that don't involve significant clinical needs, the resource Wyoming relies on the most to ensure short- or long-term child safety are foster parents. If you want to be better safe than sorry, and you want children with trained parents, it certainly makes sense. (TRAINED parents?? Are you kidding me?? My daughter's trained parents are never home, have 7 kids that they receive a fat monthly check for, oh yeah, and the trained dad IS A COUNTY SHERIFF!!!)

Finally, the people we rely on the most to intervene with delinquents and ensure community safety from troubled youth are sheriffs, police and prosecutors. It's been observed that Wyoming relies too much on detention for these youth. That's true, but as police and prosecutors often observe, there's not much available in most communities between warrants and detention. Law enforcement officers do not have a lot of alternatives.

I know I left out the courts, but let's cut to the chase: there are no clear enemies in the day-to-day struggle to reduce the numbers of children in out-of-home care or to help keep struggling families intact. (WHAT?!?!)

There are no clear enemies, but of course our youth are not winning when we rely too much on secure interventions, particularly those far from home. Something has to change.

There are a number of other facets to this overall discussion, but when you add it all up, a lot of us think we simply need better local planning for services and interventions. And we need a financing system that supports intervention and assistance before children and families get caught up in the juvenile court system. (ummm you have that NOW!!!)

This is the logic of the community juvenile service board approach in the state's ongoing juvenile justice reform effort. Several communities are already planning to help direct state funding for locally created alternatives to detention. These will be things like community service programs, home detention, electronic monitoring, day and evening check-in programs for youth on probation, day education and treatment programs and others.

These programs will dovetail with new detention and intake centers that are also being supported by state resources in a few key counties, according to locally driven plans.

Other child welfare reform efforts need to take the same approach. While it's easy to think the state should just dictate the conditions and framework for communities to manage their own children, it's not that simple. We need clear roles, clear goals, and we need to hold each other accountable. (This by itself is a joke. They run amuck out here. There IS no accountability.)

So what do the goals need to be? While I think, "identified community by community" is a good answer, we already know from a number of those community-centered initiatives what basic services we need. The state ought to respond by helping direct more of its available resources to the kinds of things listed below.

For juvenile delinquents, we need alternatives to detention. While it's certainly appropriate that we leave long-term placements in family foster care or institutions up to the district courts, (really?? we should leave that to the courts?? what makes them qualified?? are they social workers? are they therapists?? no, their job is to enforce the law - and they can't even get that right!) wouldn't it be great if law enforcement had access to electronic monitoring, home detention programs, day and evening check-in programs and perhaps even probation at a circuit or municipal court level? For child protection cases, we need better risk assessments and more people who can effectively work with families to mitigate risk and improve their chances of safely managing their own children. (you don't need better risk assessment, you just need to follow the damn rules you have now!! children are ripped from the arms of their true loving parents on the whims of DSF and the police. No one, no one manages the safety of their own children better than the child's biological mother and/or father.) For children in need of behavioral or mental health services, we need clinical assessments at a pre-MDT level. We need more mental health professionals who can work effectively with the court system and provide support for temporary foster care and therapeutic foster care interventions. (the ones you have don't work effectively. they are assigned by DFS and all they are worried about is lining their pockets with federal funds. they don't care abotu the children and what damage they do to them.)

It's somewhat reassuring to think that a number of dedicated and hard-working people are already making great progress in this direction for their communities and their children. (who are these people and what EXACTLY have they done that makes them so great and their efforts so great?) But unless we make state support of community-centered planning a constant way of doing business, our progress can fade pretty quickly.

Tony Lewis is the director of the Wyoming Department of Family Services and is a former director of the Wyoming State Bar.

Friday, October 9, 2009

Lost Mind in State Care

poster's note: Ok - I am sooo beyond beside myself right now. Talk about feeling helpless!!!!! I am literally watching my stolen daughter self destruct and there is not a damn thing I can do about it. Once again, I have been given information about Brittney's behavior that is simply blowing my mind! This item below is from her "online journal". Am I the only one to read this and think she has compeltely lost her mind? Remember, she is not 18 until the 13th. Remember, she is living on a college campus in a dorm with no adult supervision. I read this and I can tell she has no clue about the ramifications of her actions and doesn't seem to care. Is it just me or is this a major problem??

Sep. 29th, 2009
2:24 PM
Ok... so the last thing we talked about was before college. Before everything really came into place. Well now I;m in college...



My roomate was relycool at first. we would hang out with everyone and I ould show her town. I even bought her lunch. Then she went out of town on a friday night. A couple of friends came over and were drinking crown and coke and th.ey left the cups in my room. well I couldnt smell it and apprently noobody else could either cuz it stayed in my room till sunday night. then whe she got back she told the RA's that I through a huge party in their while she was gone and told them I brought the alcohol into the room. I was so pissed!!! but she eded up oving out of my dorm a I ended up getting a $100 fine, 10 hours of community service and an alcohol ed. class. But I got the room to myself so that's cool lol.



Other than that not too much has happened. College is completely paid for but I don't feel like I am getting any money. not losing not gaining. Oh yh and shane and ariel broke up. And I was really mad and upset with adam, and we were in shanes room, and we ended up having sex. I felt horrible about it and I told adam and I had never seen him so upset. It killed me to see him cry like that. But we solved everything and he ended up telling kelsi to back off, him and her really liked each other. But yeah I am going to surprise adam and show him that I want to be with him forever and ask him to be my boyfriend again.



So other than THAT! nothing has really happpened. I;m quitting the petrolum club and I'm gonna be a Mary Kay sales rep. with my aunt and it's supposed to be really good money. And I am practically garunteed a car within my first year. so.... that's another huge plus. I will eep this updaed!

Saturday, September 26, 2009

What happens to your child in foster care?!?!

You see this photo - this is what happens to your minor child (under age of 18) when the state allows the foster parents to send the child to a community college in the same town without supervision. Now I ask you, would a parent kick there kid out of the house only to put them on a local college campus, unsupervised?? A child collecting foster parent would so they could make room for a couple of more kids!!








Now I find it absolutely amazing that my daughter, who HATES alcohol in any form was allowed to get into this condition. Would she have gotten in this condition if she were still in my care ?? NO!! >>>>>>>>>>

But I am sure that once again, I am in the wrong, I am just being a bitter parent.



I don't know who this blonde girl is, but this is the caption my daughter placed under this pic:
<<<<<<<<<<<<
"she held my hair back when I puked lol lisa"




You know, I must admit, I am shocked and amazed everyday at the new things I discover as to how the DFS/CPS system is not only allowed to screw parents every which a way but how they are allowed to screw the taxpayers by the amounts of money being wasted to deal with falsely accused parents, the foster parents, the shrinks, and in my daughter's case, the independent living kids that are recieving funds to attend college to do what you see here. These are your tax dollars hard at work :)
Just felt the need to share :)

Thursday, September 24, 2009

TIMELINE

Hello all.
I thought it would be important to update the timeline, put it all together in one post, and re-post it. There have been some new visitors to my blog and unfortunately since they are just beginning their nightmarish journey - I thought they should #1-see what they are in for & #2-have an idea of the notes they should be taking for themselves.

7/24/08 Thursday - 10:30a (approx)Joe (my fiance) and Brittney (my youngest daughter - age 16 at this time) go to breakfast afterwhich Britt watches Red vs. Blue on YouTube.com (this is important later on)
7/24/08 Thursday 5:11p Brittney’s Facebook status reads “Getting used to being in the middle of nowhere.”
7/24/08 Thursday 7:52p Brittney’s Facebook status reads “watching Red vs Blue”
7/24/08 Thursday 9:57p Brittney’s Facebook shows that she joined a group.
7/25/08 Friday 7:01a Brittney’s Facebook status reads “Is nervous”
7/25/08 Friday (Approx) 10:30a (fla time)Mark & Pam come to the Florida house to tell Lydia (me - mom) that Brittney told their son (Brooks) that Joe touched Brittney inappropriately. Lydia calls Brittney, she gives no details only “he touched her inappropriately”. Lydia calls Joe and asks same question. He says the only thing he can think of is that he may have inadvertently grazed her chest when she rolled over from her stomach to her back in order to look at him when he was telling her he was leaving for work at 4:00A.M. He asked if Lydia wanted him to go stay @ hotel til she could get there. Lydia & Joe call Brittney, Joe apologizes (at my urging/insistance - and not the first time I have done this and again this will be important later) if he made her uncomfortable again offers to stay @ hotel til Lydia gets to Casper.
7/25/08 Friday (Approx) 4:00p (fla time)Lydia receives call from Brittney to advise that Investigator Mike Steinburg and Investigator Kristi DePoorter (Natrona County Sheriff & Department of Family Services) are at the Casper residence to talk to her. Inv. Steinburg gets on the phone & says they want to take Brittney down to CAPS for questioning in re: to the abuse allegation. Inv. Steinburg states I will be able to get Brittney back once I am in town, but since Joe & I are not married & there is no other family, they want to put her into protective custody. Inv. Steinburg made it sound like I had no choice.
7/25/08 Friday 5:30p Brittney placed into Protective Custody & placed in foster home (the child collectors)(Kevin & Helen – Kevin is a Natrona County Sheriff & Helen works at a detention facility).
7/25/08 Friday 7:30p (approx)Investigator Mike Steinburg and Investigator Kristi DePoorter (Natrona County Sheriff & Department of Family Services) went to the Casper residence & interviewed Joe. Did not read him his rights nor did they tell him what he was accused of. (Later we find out this interview was also tape recorded without consent & without Joe’s knowledge).
7/27/08 Sunday Lydia & Reba (Lydia’s mother) arrive in Casper with the youngest dog & a guinea pig.
7/28/08 Monday 4:00p Shelter Care Hearing before Judge Skavdahl. Lydia is told Brittney will remain in foster care as she is not able to provide a safe environment for Brittney (I live with Joe) nor will he allow Reba (the grandmother) to take Britt BACK to Florida. "I want the child to remain here in Casper so that I can control her." says Judge Skavdahl.
7/31/08 Thursday 1:49p Brittney’s Facebook status reads “Happy but misses her friends” 8/2/08 Saturday Lydia begins working @ Walmart in Casper.
8/7/08 Thursday 4:00p Shelter Care Hearing before Judge Skavdahl. Lydia is told Brittney will remain in foster care as she is not able to provide a safe environment for Brittney (I live with Joe). Once again it is asked for the grandmother to take Britt back to Florida and again it is denied. Judge does not want her leaving his jurisdiction. Case will be held over for Adjudication.Judge orders 3 visits per week between Lydia & Brittney.This date is Lydia & Joe’s 4 year anniversary.Lydia finally receives copies of all papers to date (motions, complaints, predisposition reports, etc) after complaining that I was not getting copies of paperwork.After reviewing ALL paperwork, Lydia is NOT charged with ANY crime on ANY paperwork nor is Lydia even being investigated.Noticed in predisposition report statements of “reasonable efforts made to prevent removal of child’: provided home based services (no they didn’t), referred for counseling child, mother & family (no we weren’t), referred to benefit specialist for medical resources/Medicaid (no I wasn’t), and an MDT meeting has been held (no it hasn’t it doesn’t take place until Oct 17).
8/8/08 Friday 10:30p (approx)Joe is arrested. He remains in jail on $10,000 cash bond for 8 weeks.
8/8/08 Friday Order on Scheduling conference is set for Sept 30 @ 10:00a
8/11/08 Monday Lydia is told by Joe’s employer (Mid Mountain Concrete Pumping) must move out of residence (they own) NO later than Wednesday.
8/12/08 Tuesday Lydia is forced to take youngest dog to animal shelter.
8/13/08 Wednesday Lydia & Reba move into First Interstate Motel. $378.00/wk. Employer keeps Joe’s truck & the oldest dog Max.
8/14/08 Thursday Lydia leaves for Ft. Jackson, SC for Brianna (oldest daughter - 18 3/4 yrs at this time) graduation from Basic Training for US Army Reserves.
8/17/08 Sunday Lydia returns from South Carolina to Casper.
8/19/08 Tuesday 8:00p Visit scheduled with Brittney @ the foster parents home but she is late due to swim orientation.
8/22/08 Friday 7:00p Visit scheduled with Brittney @ the foster parents home.
8/23/08 Saturday Lydia rents storage unit for Joe’s truck.
8/24/08 Sunday Lydia picked up Joe’s truck & oldest dog Max from Joe's now previous employer (they fired him the day he was arrested).
8/24/08 Sunday 7:00p Visit scheduled with Brittney @ the foster parents home.

8/25/08 Monday 9:00a Lydia meets with Bernie (investigator for Joe’s court appointed attorney Rob).
8/26/08 Tuesday Lydia emailed Bernie text log from Brittney’s phone.
8/27/08 Wednesday Lydia drops of pictures of family to Bernie.
9/1/08 Monday 2:43p Received text message from Brittney re: getting 1st place in swim meet.

9/1/08 Monday 5:12p Brittney texts Lydia asking for ringtone for her phone (this is the phone that Joe is supposed to still be paying for and was ORDERED by Judge back in August to keep on so as to not "retaliate" against her).
9/3/08 Wednesday Joe & Brittney’s cell phones are turned off by verizon for non payment (because Joe is in Jail).
9/4/08 Thursday Lydia asks Tere (Dept of Family Services caseworker) for visits to be @ DFS due to foster home visits too chaotic. Also advised had not seen Brittney in a week.
9/8/08 Monday 4:00p Lydia lmvm for Tere to follow up on request for visit.
9/10/08 Wednesday 11:15a Lydia sent Brittney a message on Facebook.
9/10/08 Wednesday 4:50p Lydia lmvm for Tere to follow up on request for visit.
9/11/08 Thursday 11:37a Lydia lmvm for Jeri (Tere's supervisor @ DFS) re: no follow up from Tere & Lydia not getting visits (remember, Judge ordered me to have 3 visits per week).
9/11/08 Thursday 3:30p Lydia lmvm for Jeri (Tere's supervisor @ DFS) re: no follow up from Tere & Lydia not getting visits.After message receptionist transferred Lydia to Carol (Next up supervisor from Jeri)
9/12/08 Friday 4:38p Lydia received call from Deanna PAC (Self Help Center contracted by DFS for visitations). Tere failed to forward copy of my work schedule to PAC.
9/12/08 Friday 7:30p Lydia received call from Deanna, visit with Brittney cancelled due to she is out of town for a swim meet.
9/13/08 Saturday 4:31p Lydia received message from Brittney via Facebook that she has a new cell phone number.
9/13/08 Saturday 8:10p Lydia responds to Brittney’s Facebook message.
9/14/08 Sunday 7:11p Lydia received message from Brittney via Facebook.
9/14/08 Sunday 9:58p Lydia responds to Brittney’s Facebook message.
9/15/08 Monday Joe released from Jail on $10,000 cash bond. Lydia received cashiers check made out to the jail from Joe’s father. Due to processes, jail says Lydia posted the bond (again this will be important later).
9/17/08 Wednesday 10:26a Lydia received call from Deanna re: visits with Brittney on Thursday & Sunday. Advised I would be unable to make due to work schedule. Advised I was off on Friday & Saturday & that some days Brittney doesn’t have to be to school until 11:00a try to schedule a visit during that time as well.
9/19/08 Friday 1:00p Lydia & Joe meet with Father August of St. Patricks Church for counseling/guidance.
9/21/08 Sunday 1:30p Brittney’s Facebook status reads: “Officially missing Mandarin High”
9/21/08 Sunday 4:15p Lydia received call from Deanna re: visit. Deanna thought I was to be there @ 3:00p. Lydia thought she was to call back to confirm.
9/22/08 Monday 3:20p Lydia receives text message from Brianna stating a voice mail was left on her phone for Lydia to call DA’s office re: hearing.
9/22/08 Monday 3:25p Lydia calls Bernie re: call from DA’s office. Per Bernie, my choice if I want to talk to them but I don’t have to. Lydia did not return call to DA.
9/23/08 Tuesday5:41p Lydia received message from Deanna re: visit with Brittney on Wednesday @ 7:00p and Thursday @ 7:15p
9/23/08 Tuesday 6:15p Lydia attempted to call Deanna re: visits. Could not leave message voice mail was full so paged.
9/23/08 Tuesday 6:45p Lydia attempted to call Deanna re: visits. Could not leave message voice mail was full so paged.
9/24/08 Wednesday 9:30a Lydia finally reached Deanna confirmed Wednesday visit advised must change Thursday visit due to work schedule. She will find out & call back.
9/24/08 Wednesday 7:00p Been 1 month since Lydia has seen Brittney. Brittney arrived @ visit with 7 stitches in her forehead. Claims she hit head on chair in her room. Lydia took picture of injury. Left copy of work schedule through 10/10/08.
9/25/08 Thursday 9:00a Joe meets with Rob & Bernie (court appointed attorney & his investigator).
9/25/08 Thursday 249p Sandy from Lifenet calls Lydia re:MDT Meeting re: Brittney on 10/14. This date may change due to Helen & Kevin possibly being out of town (the people who are receiving federal money to care for MY child are going to leave her with a stranger?!?!).
9/25/08 Thursday 4:40p Lydia lmvm for Paul (regional supervisor for DFS) re: concern for Brittney & her injury.
9/28/08 Sunday 5:03p Brittney’s Facebook lists her as “in a relationship”
9/29/08 Monday 1:21p Lydia sends Brittney a message via Facebook asking who she is dating and information re: her senior pictures.
9/29/08 Monday Kevin Taheri amends petition and caption
9/30/08 Tuesday 9:00a Adjudication hearing before Judge Skavdahl. Joe is found guilty of all charges. DA presents no evidence other than Brittney’s video taped statement (she didn't even have to testify nor was Joe allowed his Constitutional right to "face his accuser").Joe does not have an attorney present (his court appointed is only for the criminal not the juvenille). Joe does not give up his right to an attorney, did apply for a court appointed attorney while in jail, but never heard back. (Also at this point, the Asst DA Kevin T and the GAL Mary Anne were kind enough to begin offering free advice to Joe (hello can you say acting in dual roles, conflict of interest and what about some semblance of lawyers ethics????) Judge allowed case to proceed AND finds the "allegations of abuse to be substantiated (he found Joe guilty). This is also when we find out (even though we had been asking for it the whole time) that even though Britt was accusing Joe of digital penetration, NO physical exam was done on Britt for 4 days and NO dna test was EVER done. Naturally there was NO physical evidence that Joe did anything to her (mainly because he didn't but still, they couldn't comeup with anything either that "placed" him there.) Lydia raises concerns for Brittney’s safety (due to the stitches) as well as not having the court ordered visits 3 times per week. Judge reiterated 3 visit order and stated accidents happen, she is fine where she is.
10/2/08 Thursday 6:00p Lydia received call from Deanna re: visit in 1 hour. Advised could not that it was 1 hour notice. Reminded of schedule copy left with her & advised next days off were Tuesday & Friday. She will call back.
10/6/08 Monday 8:03p Lydia received call from Deana re: visit Tuesday.
10/6/08 Monday 10:06p Lydia lmvm to confirm visit on Tuesday with Brittney
10/7/08 Tuesday 11:33a Lydia received call from Deanna re: 7:00p visit tonight, 9:00a and 7:00p visits next Tuesday. Will need to confirm 9:00a visit with Tere who is coordinating.
10/7/08 Tuesday 11:40a Lydia attempted call to Judge Skavdahl’s office to discuss visit issues. Was told have to go through GAL (Mary Ann) or DFS (Tere).
10/7/08 Tuesday 11:42a Lydia attempted 3rd call to GAL, voice mail was full could not leave message.
10/7/08 Tuesday 2:53p Lydia attempted 4th call to GAL, voice mail was full could not leave message.
10/7/08 Tuesday 7:00p Lydia & Brittney visit. Starts out well then ¾ way through went downhill. Need to have Deanna’s notes checked from last visit. Brittney lied. Last visit said trip to movies was in a group. This visit states was just her and new boyfriend but once again, I am in the wrong and have no right to be concerned.
10/8/08 Wednesday 4:17p Lydia received message from Tere re: visit tomorrow @10:00a
10/8/08 Wednesday 5:09p Lydia left message on Tere’s voice mail that won’t be able to make 10:00a visit due to work schedule 6a-2p. Lydia also sent Brittney text message to advise since notice was last minute.
10/14/08 Tuesday 7:00p Lydia visit with Brittney
10/15/08 Wednesday 2:47p Lydia received call from Tere re: 9:00a visit on Tuesday 10/21/08 confirmed.
10/17/08 Friday 11:00a MDT (multi-discipline team) meeting.Lydia refuses to cut ties with Joe. No agency accepts responsibility for not getting 3 visits per week. Lydia is ordered to have psychological eval as well as anger management and parenting classes. Brittney will remain in foster care. Britt is doing remarkably well, she is doing good in school and excelling in swimming. (DUH!!! Her grades haven't changed, her sports haven't changed, she has a boyfriend and a job....how is it she is traumatized again??????)
10/21/08 Tuesday 9:00a Lydia visit with Brittney @ DFS under Tere supervision. This visit will come back to bite me because I lost it. Visit started out well. Brittney spoke of swim team for approx 30 min, Visit turned ugly when Brittney referred to current children in the foster home as “sisters”. Let comment go until I asked why no acknowledgement of her grandmother (Reba) – no calls, no letters, cards, emails, or texts. She asked why grandmother doesn’t come to the visits. I replied “you haven’t asked her to.” I also stated that “at least I haven’t forgotten I have a family”. Tere demanded exchange stop, I replied “I know, we don’t want her dealing with reality.” Brittney proceeded to storm out of room and cry(her typical drama queen move). Tere stated she needed to get Brittney back to school which I responsed “make sure you talk to her about reality on your way”. I left.
10/21/08 Tuesday 3:30p Lydia received call from Deanna re: visit @ 7:00p tonight. Advised morning visit didn’t go well & since weather bad (snowing) stated would skip this visit.
10/21/08 Tuesday Joe receives copies of papers from hearings back on 7/28 & 8/7/08.
10/28/08 Tuesday 2:42p Lydia receives call from Deanna re: visit tonight @ 7:00p with Brittney. I cancel due to already had plans.
10/31/08 Friday Lydia sent emails to 3 Wyoming senators asking for help in case.
11/3/08 Monday 4:13p Lydia called Deanna to advise of new work schedule.

11/4/08 Tuesday 7:57p Lydia received call from Deanna that visits will be on Tuesday & Thursday 6:30-7:30p
11/6/08 Thursday 4:57p Lydia called Deanna to cancel visit due to work.
11/10/08 Monday 1:55p Lydia received call from Tere, instead of visit tomorrow, would I like to go to Brittney’s swim awards @ 6:00p. I agreed.
11/11/08 Tuesday 3:21p Brittney’s Facebook status still shows her in relationship.
11/11/08 Tuesday 6:00p Brittney’s swim awards @ Natrona County High School. Didn’t go well. She said hello & goodbye. Other than that, like I wasn’t even there.
11/13/08 Thursday 2:58p Lydia left message for Deanna to confirm visit tonight.
11/13/08 Thursday 5:06p Lydia left message #2 for Deanna to confirm visit tonight.
11/13/08 Thursday Lydia sent 2nd emails to 3 Wyoming senators asking for help in case.
11/18/08 Tuesday 4:15p Lydia left message for Deanna to confirm visit tonight.
5:14p Lydia received call from Deanna that per GAL there will be no visit & if any questions to call the GAL.
11/18/08 Tuesday 5:30p Lydia called GAL office & they gave home number. Left message on home voice mail.
7:57p Lydia as of this time numerous calls to home & office numbers as well as left 2 messages with no call back.
11/19/08 Wednesday 8:10a Lydia attempted 2 more calls to GAL home, no message. Left message on voice mail at GAL office. Also attempted call to Tere, no message left.
10:00a Child Support Enforcement meeting scheduled. Lydia had to cancel due to on new job for only 2 days.
10:50a No answer at GAL office
10:51a Unable to leave message for Tere @ DFS mailbox full
10:59a Receptionist @ DFS tried 2 supervisors & got voice mail
11:02a Tere finally reached, GAL was to file motion but doesn’t know why
11:24a Left message @ GAL office
1:22p Call to Tere, voice mail full unable to leave message1:24p GAL office, she is not in.
2:30p GAL office, she is not in.
2:31p DA’s office, Kevin not in
2:32p Tere, motion is to suspend visits until MDT classes completed.
3:47p Tere called back to confirm motion is to suspend visits. I questioned and complained why I am being punished for what I didn’t know. She wants me in her office on Friday @ 4:15 for her “help”.
11/19/08 Wednesday 4:20p Lydia, meeting with Tere & her Supervisor Carol. Tere spent most time hammering on the issue of Lydia not leaving Joe. Lydia spent most time complaining that I had never been through this before, why am I being punished when I didn’t know I was supposed to have to take care of calling these people. You have controlled everything else, I just assumed you would be having people contact me. Tere gave me the name of CWCC & the doctor to call there to set it up. She will get me a list for the parenting classes and anger management classes.
11/23/08 Sunday Lydia sent emails to NPRA, Rutherford, Family Defense Center, Pacific Justice, and Gloria Allred asking for help with my case.
11/24/08 Monday 11:27a Lydia left message for Tere requesting copy of letter from Dr. Naginey (Brittney’s counselor) because it was not included in motion filed by GAL & to call back to confirm she received message.
11:01a Lydia left message on voice mail for Dr. Mike Bjornson @ CWCC to schedule psych eval.
11/24/08 Monday 12:35p Lydia received call from Tere to confirm message & will get copy of Dr. Naginey letter
11/24/08 Monday Lydia received email back from Karen Wagner (NPRA) to contact Dr. Monty Weinstein for help.
11/24/08 Monday Lydia received email back from Kevin @ Pacific Justice. Can’t help because case not of religious nature. Suggested legal aid.
11/24/08 Monday 7:37p Lydia still have not received call from GAL as to why visit canceled on 11/18.
11/24/08 Monday Lydia received copy of motion filed by GAL to suspend visitation
11/25/08 Tuesday 11:11a Lydia left message #2 on voice mail for Dr. Mike Bjornson @ CWCC to schedule psych eval.
3:11p Lydia received message from Dr. Bjornson asking for DFS caseworker name.
4:02p Lydia left message on voice mail to Dr. Bjornson with Tere name and phone number and to schedule eval on 12/16 if possible.
12/1/08 Monday 9:19a Lydia called Peter Lomtevas’ office to confirm he received my emails.
11:11a Lydia LMVM for Dr. Bjornson to follow up if received a message/reached Tere Gabel to set up appt on 12/16/08.
8:08p Lydia received call from Peter Lomtevas to discuss issues of case, the timeline and his role/fees.
12/2/08 Tuesday 11:14a Lydia, LMVM for Tere Gabel that I still have not received the copy of the letter from Dr. Naginey that was filed with the motion on 11/24/08 by Mary Ann the GAL and that Dr. Bjornson is trying to contact her to schedule psych eval and for her to call me back to confirm she has received my message and status of these items.7:44p Brittney’s myspace status “wants to see her boyfriend” found out on facebook that boyfriend=Adam and facebook shows “in a relationship”
12/8/08 Monday 11:02a Lydia LMVM for Peter Lomtevas
12/10/08 Wednesday 11:34a Lydia received telephone call from Shawn Evans of PASSAGE, Inc.
12/15/08 Monday 4:42p Lydia, received phone call from Peter Lomtevas. Discussed case in length and detail as to how for me to write up motions, what to say and to motion for a court appointed attorney.
8:00p Lydia, typed up 3 motions for the court:1) Opposition Motion2) Motion for continuance3) Motion for Contempt on Visitation(I will post these as soon as I look back though them and see if I need to edit out anything)
12/16/08 Tuesday 9:30a 1) OPPOSITION TO MOTION TO SUSPEND VISITATION/OPPOSITION TO MOTION TO ORDER PARENT TO COMPLY WITH CASE PLAN 2) MOTION FOR CONTINUANCE FOR MOTHER TO OBTAIN LEGAL REPRESENTATION 3) MOTION FOR CONTEMPT OF COURT FOR VIOLATION OF VISITATION ORDER all filed by Lydia with the court.
12/16/08 Tuesday 10:00a Hearing on Motion filed by GAL to suspend visitation. Judge orders: visits suspended, psychological eval, GAL to get Lydia copy of Dr. Naginey letter, Lydia given court appointed attorney.
12/25/08 Thursday Britt is pulled over by police in a traffic stop (her foster parents have purchased her a car (that's not witness tampering!!!) it is snowing, she barely has her license and she is pulled over for "playing with a camera phone" WTF????? Additionally, she posts this information on BOTH facebook and myspace (again, remember this, it will be important later)12/29/08 Monday 11:36a Lydia lmvm of Tere Gabel re: not yet received copy of Dr Naginey letter and still awaiting psych eval appointment.
12/31/08 Wednesday 4:15p Lydia met with court appointed attorney (Wendy O.) to discuss case. Appears to be on case begrudgingly, opening statement: “what exactly is it you want me to do?” “My best advice is to just do as they ask, it isn’t worth it to fight the system” and “In my 17 years of doing this I have never had a case where the parents didn’t get the child back after jumping thru all the hoops”
1/9/09 Friday 9:50a Lydia spoke to Rob re: Brianna & Steinburg
9:55a Lydia spoke to Wendy re: her meeting with GAL & accusation that I am still not following case plan. Advised Wendy of dates of contact & with whom in order to attempt to follow case plan. Her advice – for me to call yet again.
9:57a Lydia spoke to Tere G re: still no copy of Dr. Naginey letter, still waiting on list for anger mgmt classes she stated she would get to me back on 11/21/08, and still awaiting appt for psych eval – advised “get the lead out – I’m tired of being punished because you don’t do your job”. Tere claimed there had been fire at the office last week and she still needs a court order. (gee I wonder why I was ordered to take anger management classes...lol)
4:00p Joe, emergency continuance granted (just barely) because Army will not acknowledge (ok they acknowledged it enough to say that since she was in a training environment they couldn't let her go) the Subpeona to Brianna.
1/12/09 Monday 3:50p Lydia, received call from Wendy to reschedule our Friday appointment to Thursday @ 4:15p
1/15/09 Thursday 4:15p Lydia, meeting with Wendy Owens
1/18/09 Sunday Brittney’s facebook/myspace status updated to reflect she has been grounded.
1/23/09 Friday Disposition hearing Judge Skavdahl orders:1) Visitation remains suspended2) GAL recommends Jean M. (LCSW) to be my therapist & suggests condensing my therapy, anger mgmt, parenting, psych eval, and even dual counsel with Britt if she is able to do all.3) Brittney was there and due to speak to say she didn’t want visits but Judge didn’t have her speak, because "nothing good will come of it".
1/30/09 Friday 4:15p Lydia appointment with Jean M
2/3/09 Tuesday 4:15p Lydia appointment with Jean

2/10/09 Tuesday 1:00p Lydia appointment with Jean
2/17/09 Tuesday 1:00p Lydia appointment with Jean
2/19/09 Thursday 11:59a Lydia, received call from Jessica @ CWCC, psych eval scheduled for 3/23/09 @ 10a
1:00p Lydia appointment with Jean
3/2/09 Monday 3:15p Lydia appointment with Jean
3/10/09 Tuesday 4:00p Lydia appointment with Jean
3/11/09 Wednesday Lydia, received in mail my copy of formal notice from Kristi DePoorter that allegations of abuse were substantiated against Joe.Lydia, received in mail letter from Cynthia Loomis in response to e-mail I sent her, Enzi & Barrasso, that she has forwarded my email/letter to Governor Freidenthal.
3/12/09 Thursday 4:00p Lydia appointment with Jean
3/16/09 Monday (My 40th birthday) 9:00a Joe’s criminal trial begins.Jury Seated.Opening Arguments.Brittney Testifies.
3/17/09 Tuesday 9:00a Joe’s criminal trial continues.Brittney finishes testifying.Brooks Testifies.Pam Testifies.Officer Steinburg Testifies.
3/18/09 Wednesday 9:00a Joe’s criminal trial continues. Audio recording Officer Steinburg illegally taped at trailer is played for court.Officer Steinburg finishes testifying. Lydia testifies. Brianna testifies. Case to jury @ 4p Jury returns Not Guilty verdict on all 3 counts @ 5:30p.
3/24/09 Tuesday Lydia appointment with Jean.
3/31/09 Tuesday 4:00p Lydia appointment with Jean.
4/3/09 Friday Leave Casper to return to Florida.